You may find it easiest to bond with your sex spirit in complete darkness. It is best if you are nude or at least partially nude and either already aroused or in the mood to be aroused. Being in complete darkness shows vulnerability and leads to trust between both of you. You may also view the encyclopedia article for associations you may use to make offerings. All of these steps should help intensify your bond and communication efforts. It is all important to remember that not all spirits communicate in the same way. Some communicate through dreams, telepathy and visions so it is important you do not discount any subtle changes. If you continue to have difficulty, you could always try a bonding service or connecting stone as well. :)